Sex – the unwritten (and fairly fluid) contract.

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It occurred to me the other day that we enter into a sexual relationship with very little idea of what lies ahead of us. For the guys, their hope is for a thoroughly satisfying orgasm.  For ladies, the same would be nice, but add to that some respect, tenderness and hopefully a dash of fun too. Sex doesn’t have to be serious…

No, when we close the door (in most cases, but not all) we cross mental fingers and fervently hope that the evening won’t be a total disaster. Orgasms and fun would be nice. Erectile dysfunction, puking and unsanitary messes are not on the list, thank you.

That’s all expected – and sometimes it goes almost to plan. But what of the route to that final, satisfying sigh? What of the methods used to bring each other to that happy non-faked place?

If we’re assuming two complete strangers at this tryst, then only fumbling, trial and error will establish each other’s roles and preferences. But what if the guy is on the submissive side? What if the dark-haired, black-outfitted woman who agreed to come home with him isn’t the handcuff-packing dominatrix he visualised, but a meek librarian (no disrespect to librarians) who only wants a father figure to seduce and use her? Can you picture the scene where both await the touches of the other – but nothing happens? Such a let-down.

And even once the clothes do come off, who agrees on the oral fun? Who goes first? Foreheads could bruise if both parties drop to their knees at the same time.

Have you ever had one of those encounters where the guy just won’t go down on you, no matter how much pressure you apply to the top of his head? Or where he’s determined that missionary is best, even though you desperately need to be taken doggy-style?

I know that many of you will say that communication is the key here, but unless you are the assertive sort, it may be felt that to insist (i.e. hint strongly by tweaking your lover’s ears – or genitals!) on something will upset the other party. Gentle ushering, begging, making doe eyes and saying ‘please lick me…for at least eight to ten minutes and only then may you enter me using position B’ is one way, but it’s a tad clinical, wouldn’t you say?

Another useful method is to coo into his ear that you are loving what he is doing (still trying to get his socks off), but it would just be so HOT if he would just do one little thing (get on the same side of the sheets as you / insert favourite pleasure here).

It’s obvious that working everything out beforehand isn’t feasible (or sexy – unless you’re an accountant or a quantity surveyor) but we stumble into new clinches with very little idea of what we’re doing – or how the other person is wired up.

Anything could happen!

But, then, isn’t the thrill of the unknown all part of the fun? 😀

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SSS from TBL2

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This week’s Six Sentence Sunday is from the upcoming (fingers crossed) novella and second Bucket List story, ‘Caught.’

Amber has lured her BFF Lucy to the bed section of a large department store. It’s late in the evening, and no-one appears to be around.  Amber sashays up to me (Lucy), smiles and then…

Her large soft lips pressed against mine. 

In a moment, she was devouring me, her eager mouth engulfing mine, lifting me away from the cares of this world and into a weightless dreamy oblivion. 

I sank into bliss and tiny moans crept from my throat – until I remembered where we were and broke the kiss. 

“Amber, we’re in the middle of a department store.  The place is closing.  We’ll get locked in…”

“Not such a bad thing,” Amber cooed, taking hold of my chin to turn my head back towards her.

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Annie

A Great Big THANK YOU!!!

This morning I received the following pair of notifications from WordPress;

100 followers 200 likes

I’d just like to say a great big

Thank You

to everyone who has elected to follow me, plus an extra thank you to my friends who have commented, encouraged and advised me in the short time that I’ve been blogging.

I know that I can be random, I know that I can be rude (but you like that, right?), but I hope you continue to stick with me as I learn and develop my blogging style and make a better hash of it (that’s a good thing, isn’t it?) as I blog into the spring and summer time.

I look forward to reading the posts of my longer-term friends plus those of all my new ones!

Happy writing!

An extra big Muwaaaaah for you all!

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Annie

Thank you all!! Fifty followers today!

This morning I received the following message from WordPress;

fifty followers

Thank you to everyone who has been kind enough to follow my still-evolving style of rambling and random posting.

In the few short months that I’ve been posting my thoughts and excerpts, you’ve been kind with your comments, as well as entertaining.  Who’d have guessed that there were so many like-minded (ie naughty) fellow bloggers around?

I love to read your posts and loook forward to seeing many more in 2013.

Thanks again for making blogging so darn entertaining!

Here’s an extra large Mwuaaaah!

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Annie

Zooma and the interview

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Zooma has been kind enough to say a few words about me and has asked if he could repost my sampler story ‘A little taste of Annie’.

I was happy to chat to him and share a few naughty facts.  As the story has brought me a lot of luck and a good deal of work (as a sampler) I was happy to let it out to fly around the blogsphere.  If you haven’t already seen it, why not pop over to Zooma’s page and have a naughty little read.

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